It seems to me that the whole self-acceptance thing has gone too far.
It now actually feels that you're WRONG in some way and that you'll be judged for wanting to lose some weight.
You are in charge of you: you don't have to sign up to the 'love yourself at any size' brigade.
You CAN say you'd feel happier in your own skin by losing some weight.
You don't have to dress it up as wanting to be 'healthier', or 'more empowered' - although those are great things to want too.
There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to lose weight.
To wanting to feel happy again in your own skin.
With wanting to get back to your own personal happy weight.
But some days it feels like all I see are messages that you don't have to change yourself to be happy - you ' just have to learn to love yourself the way you are'.
Well, I disagree.
Totally disagree.
If that's for you, then hey go for it.
I genuinely want each and every one of us to feel happy in our own skin.
But for me, I know ... I was NEVER going to feel happy in my skin, overweight, uncomfortable when I bent over to put my shoes on, out of breath ... feeling NOT LIKE ME.
It's all gone too far I think.
The solution is NOT for everyone to 'learn to love yourself' or 'be happy at any weight, you're still the same person'.
Because ... actually for many of us?
We're NOT.
We're not the person we are when we can move easily, walk and run up the stairs freely. When we're feeling good in our skin. When we start enjoying clothes again.
When we feel more OURSELVES, our real selves again.
Yes, I think it's gone too far.
There is NOTHING wrong in saying, declaring ...
'You know what? I'd feel happier if I lost some weight'.
You don't have to couch it in other language, dress it up as something more spiritual or whatever is is.
You ARE allowed to just want to lose some freaking weight and feel happy in your skin.
We were not born overweight and we weren't designed to be overweight.
Do NOT feel that in this current climate of acceptance - which is great of course, acceptance of everyone as they are and as they are happy to be, YES .. but you?
If you're NOT HAPPY being overweight, there's nothing wrong with saying so, declaring your mission to lose the weight - there's nothing to hide.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING TO LOSE WEIGHT WHEN YOU'RE NOT HAPPY THE WEIGHT YOU ARE.
Oops, lots of shouty caps there!
It actually makes me really angry that people are basically being told to change their mindset - to be happy being unhappy in their own skin!
F-that! You can be, do and have whatever you want!
And if you're unhappy in your skin, at your current weight? You know what?
YOU DECIDE ... YOU get to decide to change that.
Set your goals, and commit.
Then choose to take the actions needed to get the results you want.
And keep going.
I'm with you all the way :)
